With over 50 years of study and practice in the field of hypnosis, I can tell you that what most people look for when they see a hypnotist is self-control, self-discipline. People will say “My will power comes and goes, mostly goes”. Hypnosis works because the method relies upon imagination. Imagination is much stronger than will power.
Young hypnotists often learn this example: Place a strong solid wood plank or metal beam on the floor. Most anyone can walk on it 100 times and keep their balance. Now, take that same solid plank or beam and place it between the roofs of two tall buildings. Most people would not chance the walk, even in the best of calm weather. Our imagination begins to create all the worries of losing our balance, fear of falling, danger, death, etc. If we did walk between the roofs, the average person would likely be focused on the fear of falling, lose balance and indeed fall to his demise. Learn to control your mind, your mouth, your thoughts and your words. Self-talk, positive or negative can make or break you.
If we think that breaking an addictive habit like smoking, overeating, gambling, drinking or others will be hard, it probably will be. We become the thoughts we hold in our head. Want to be a nonsmoker? Then influence your subconscious with hypnosis that you already are, believe it, feel it, own it. Want to lose weight? Then bombard your subconscious mind with instructions that you are already slim, that you eat slowly, dislike greasy, fatty and sweet foods, that you love to move your body, leave food on your plate, that you are full with less food and so on.
Years ago, Earl Nightingale discovered “The Strangest Secret”: we become what we think the most about. Hypnosis is used as the only anesthetic tool when people are unable to use standard chemical anesthesia. They can die from it. As a result, hypnosis has even been used for heart surgery and brain surgery. Hypnosis is a very powerful tool. Hypnosis is not sleep. Hypnosis is guided and magnified concentration on the voice of the hypnotist.
Will power is not very effective because the energy comes from the conscious mind. Hypnosis is far more effective simply because it uses subconscious mind power. Besides, habits are stored in the subconscious mind, so you want to go to where the problem exists. That’s why people will automatically light a cigarette, and sometimes without being consciously aware, two cigarettes at the same time. People drive their car for miles subconsciously and can’t remember what they passed, or drive right past their exit. Or, they read a few pages of a book and cannot remember what they just read, demonstrating amnesia. People will bite their nails, smoke and eat without even being fully aware what they are doing, automatically, subconsciously.
Words are like surgical weapons for good or evil. Adolph Hitler used them for evil. I have spent thousands of hours to design my seminars and hypnosis recordings so they have impact. You just relax and listen, but do not try hard. Try hard to remember something on the tip of your tongue or try hard to fall asleep at night and you become more wide awake. When you relax, you can remember better and you fall asleep faster. No need to try hard. Hypnosis is so simple a child can do it. Treat it like play. You do not need a great imagination. If you can close your eyes and remember what a green or red apple looks like, you have enough imagination. If you can place a stem and green leaf on the apple, even better.
Hypnosis works because to the subconscious, imaginary experience is real. That is why someone will say: “My dream seemed so real.” The subconscious mind never sleeps. I place words and images into the theatre of your mind to convince you that you are already the person you want to be. The movies I direct into your mind become stronger with practice. Practice makes perfect. Being hypnotized is a skill. Some are naturals and some need conditioning. That is why reinforcement is recommended: we do two hypnosis sessions at the live seminars; home use hypnosis recordings should be played more than once. The ideal mind saturation with new ideas is a live seminar, followed by hypnotic reinforcement recordings. Millions do fine with hypnosis recordings alone.
If you cry tears of sadness, or tears of joy and happiness, the tears have different chemicals. Your thoughts create chemicals. These natural chemicals created by your brain and body influence your feelings. Your feelings control your behavior. Your brain and body produce more different chemicals than are on the largest pharmacy shelves. I carefully choose the words and images to store in your head. These chosen words and images have emotional impact to change your thoughts, feelings and behavior … to blast your self-esteem and confidence through the roof.
I guide your conscious mind to step aside and then guide your subconscious mind to follow simple instructions, to focus upon my voice. Your subconscious vacuums all the instructions/directions/commands/suggestions for the changes you want in your life. Do you want to end something? Or, do you want to install something new in your mind? Whatever you do, you will do it better with hypnosis.
To make any change, you need a plan. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Hypnosis is the plan. No alien controls your hand to eat the wrong food, to use chewing tobacco, to gamble, etc. Your subconscious mind controls your hand. Hypnosis controls your subconscious mind. Want a change in your life? It’s in your hands now to take the first step and DO SOMETHING. Your plan using my hypnosis seminars or recordings will give you backbone. Wishing is nice, backbone is better. Knowledge plus ACTION gives you energy, power and a new life. If what you do does not work, do something different.
Have you ever gone to sleep and told yourself to awaken at a certain time and you did? Before sleep is an ideal time for positive self-suggestion or listening to hypnosis recordings. The positive instructions drift into your subconscious as you fall asleep and echo in your mind to succeed at what you want to happen. For more information on my many different hypnosis recordings, visit http://www.vanceromane.com (main site) and http://www.romane.ca (weight loss site).
Understand and Control How Your Thoughts and Emotions Affect Your Mind and Body Health
Extreme emotional stress or “a broken heart” can cause death. When Debbie Reynolds passed away, her son said that the stress of his sister Carrie Fisher’s death the day before was too much for his mother to take as she planned the funeral for her daughter. Known medically as stress-induced cardiomyopathy, it can strike anyone, even those in good health with no previous heart problems. Debbie Reynolds had said, ‘I want to be with Carrie.”
Broken-heart syndrome occurs when stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol cause arteries to limit blood flow to the heart. The condition can cause heart arrhythmias and sudden death. Barbra Streisand, an advocate for women’s cardiovascular health, said “too many women die of heart disease and stroke like mother and child Debbie Reynolds and Carrie Fisher.” One is even more likely to get a simple cold or flu if living with excessive stress. Stress weakens the entire immune system making us more susceptible to countless illnesses and addictions.
Your thoughts can make your heart pound, cause short, fast breaths and raise blood pressure fast. Your brain and body continually create thousands of different chemicals and hormones that affect your nervous system. This influences your feelings, behavior, immune system and health. 70 to 90% of all visits to physician’s offices are caused by, or made worse by STRESS.
Stress can cause and worsen mental and physical illness drastically. The risk of a heart attack increases about 2 ½ times as much following anger. People with high hostility are more likely to have severe atherosclerosis, hardening, narrowing of the coronary artery. Pessimism seems to increase the risk of illness. People often get cancer 6-18 months after serious multiple stressful events. Animals under stress have an enormously higher cancer rate.
Cancer patients are often called the “nicest people”. Too frequently, they put their own needs aside for others. We all thrive with a strong sense of self-esteem, with the ability to say “no” and with the willingness to satisfy our own needs. Assertiveness and optimism will make you happier and healthier.
Depression after a heart attack must be treated, or it can increase the possibility of an earlier death. I have a friend who has been a funeral director for over 30 years. He tells me that he commonly sees people retiring and shortly after dying. We all thrive on involvement with a purpose and/or people, preferably both. Thinking thoughts of appreciation and gratitude, especially before sleep, will protect your heart. Thoughts before sleep have a powerful effect upon your subconscious mind which communicates closely with your immune system.
A few examples of important actions that will assist your mind and body to release healthy chemicals:
- A happy marriage or close relationship.
- Close friends and family for emotional support.
- Church membership.
- Active group or club memberships.
- Prayer, meditation, guided imagery or hypnosis.
- Progressive relaxation, Yoga, deep breathing exercises.
- Daily physical exercise, stretching for release of endorphins, improved self-image.
- Having a pet for affection and companionship. Animals also have healthy changes in their cardiovascular system while being petted by people.
- Laughter. I enjoy comedians. Laughter has a stimulating effect, activating many muscles like an internal workout with a reduction of stress hormones, the release of “happy chemicals” and followed by a feeling of relaxation.
- Simple and inexpensive pleasures: Relaxing or soothing inspirational music; appreciation of nature, a walk in a forest, a sunset; appreciation of beautiful art; nostalgic moments; a good book, movie or a live play; physical contact with another person; sexual activity.
- Be giving, be a volunteer.
- Express yourself creatively with art.
Dr. Milton Erickson, a most respected psychiatrist and hypnotherapist, regardless of the problem, always sought a goal of happiness for his patient.
“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.” John Lennon
“Intelligence is in every cell of your body. The mind is not confined to the space above the neck.” Candace Pert, PhD.
Information like this should be taught to everyone who goes to school. I encourage you to read my similar blogs on this website.
My website is full of ideas and tips to help you to achieve health, peace of mind, happiness, joy and mental mastery for a fulfilling life. Tell your friends to visit the website too.
Most people now-a-days are stressed out with work, children, family obligations, always being contacted by emails, phone calls, text messages, and an unlimited number of requests from others or ourselves to be busy. A recent study from China of 138,000 people reported that people with high stress jobs had a 22% greater risk of stroke over those with low stress positions, but that increased to 33% for women. Anger or stress release more adrenalin and increase the possibility of a heart attack.
Hypnosis can be your greatest tool for mind programming to manage stress. By just hypnotizing people, the great relaxation of hypnosis alone frequently erases headaches, physical pain, unhealthy habits, energizes, and people come out of hypnosis feeling like they have just come out of a long, deep relaxing sleep. Many physical complaints and emotional problems may automatically disappear after someone has been deeply hypnotized.
After hypnosis, people often say: “I have never felt so relaxed in my life before”. Dr. Jennifer Majersik, head of vascular neurology at the University Of Utah School Of Medicine, says “High stress jobs might lead to activation of an unhealthy physiologic stress – response system, including increased stress hormones.” This can easily lead to increased physical illness. An incredible number of physical and psychologial problems are caused by stress.
70 to 90% of people in a physician’s office are there because stress has totally or partially caused the complaint. Animals put under extreme high stress have a high probability of developing cancer due to a weakened immune system. Similarly, humans often develop cancer 6 to 18 months after major multiple stressors.
The most common problems seen by a hypnotist are smoking, overweight and stress. Hypnosis is a powerful tool to help with these and a thousand other problems. Everyone should set a daily appointment on their personal calendar, just like a doctor’s appointment, for stress management. I cannot overestimate the importance of controlling stress to regain self control in your life. Here are 35 ways to help you to manage stress. Practice one or more of them every day. You will be healthier, more joyful and more successful. You will be happier, the greatest determinant of a good life.
- Play my stress control seminar recordings, and read my book “The Wellness Journey”.
- Use deep breathing exercises.
- Make an appointment for deep muscle massage.
- Tense up all parts of your body one at a time and let go and relax.
- Exercise with a brisk walk, hike, swim, bicycle, go to a gym or buy or rent your own equipment.
- Use self hypnosis. Lie down and relax your body step by step. Remember a peaceful place in detail, using all your senses. Really be there in your imagination.
- Meditate: sit quietly, eyes closed. Slowly focus over and over on one word such as “calm”, or “peace”, or “relax”.
- Talk to a friend, counsellor, minister, or physician. Follow your physician’s advice!
- Change your diet: less salt, less sugar, less alcohol, less fat, less meat, less coffee; more fluids, fruits, vegetables, whole grain cereals, and fish. Enjoy a balanced meal plan for proper nutrition.
- Listen to relaxing nature sound recordings, New Age or Classical music which induces slower, deeper breathing.
- Drive to a peaceful park, forest, beach, mountain or meadow.
- Take the day off or go on vacation.
- Phone your local hospital to find out when the next stress reduction class will be held.
- Start a new hobby such as painting, ceramics, sailing, tennis, yoga, etc.
- Be assertive, not aggressive. Take a self assertion course at a school or university.
- Have a warm bath at 92 degrees F. with pleasant bath oil.
- Drink chamomile tea.
- See a foot reflexologist for better circulation.
- Listen to a comedy recording; watch a live comedy show or video. Some of the best lessons are learned in the Bible: “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones”. Do not live in the past, or you are a victim. Forgive others and yourself, and move on in life. As the song says: “Enjoy yourself, it’s later than you think”.
- Volunteer to help others for diversion; new activities; new friends. What will you have given during your lifetime?
- Change your daily routine, dress, route to work, furniture arrangement, etc.
- Set up a regular time to relax, a “relaxation break” instead of a coffee break.
- Change your attitude. Why does the same event bother some people, but not others? You don’t always have to be right. You have a choice.
- Avoid over scheduling yourself for too many tasks.
- Avoid “keeping up with the Joneses”. Sam Walton owned Wal-Mart, and drove a rusty old truck. Live a simple life. No need to impress yourself or others.
- Make a daily “to do” list to tackle items in order of priority.
- Don’t spend $100 worth of energy for a 10 cent problem.
- Break down a major task into several small tasks.
- Delegate work to others.
- Set realistic goals.
- Give compliments and enjoy taking compliments.
- Never say, “I can’t do this or that”. You get what you think about.
- Make a list of tension reducers and things to do “to get outside of yourself”.
- Make your personal and family life a priority over other demands.
- Balance work with play, proper diet, sleep, exercise and relaxation.
- Be thankful for your comfortable bed, friends, food, water, a chance to work, freedom, and many other blessings!
- Above all, when you look in the mirror, say “I love myself. I am a good person.” You had best love yourself because you will be beside yourself the rest of your life. Others want to be with you if you love yourself. You have more love to give to others when you love yourself. Look after your health first so you have the energy to help others. Great happiness and joy comes from helping others to fulfillment.
Around one in three Ikarians live into their 90s, have much lower rates of cancer and heart disease, less depression and dementia, maintain a sex life into old age and remain physically active deep into their 90s.
Dr Christina Chrysohoou, a university medical school cardiologist discovered that the Ikarian diet featured a lot of beans, not much meat nor refined sugar, and that Ikarians eat locally garden grown vegetables with high antioxidants. Their exercise is digging the earth.
Ikarians regularly enjoy homemade red wine, potatoes, goat’s milk, herb tea (mint and sage), consume only small quantities of coffee, have a low daily calorie consumption, are largely unaffected by the westernized way of living with low tourism, often have afternoon naps, and sleep well with the window open for fresh air.
Ikarians are warm, friendly people, but not wealthy, as about 40% are unemployed. They are readily generous and share as if everyone is family. Family is a vital part of Ikarian culture with children, grandchildren and older people actively involved in their lives. There is a senior’s home, but it is more for those who have lost all their family.
Studies indicate that the same things that yield this healthy longevity also yield happiness. Happiness comes from a sense of belonging to something greater than oneself, and of helping others to happiness.
Gross National Happiness:
Bhutan, officially The Kingdom of Bhutan is in South Asia at the eastern end of the Himalayas bordered by China and India. In spite of economic struggles, Bhutan is often said to be one of the happiest countries in the world.
The government of Bhutan uses a Gross National Happiness index to measure happiness among its people. Happiness in Bhutan is a major goal, guided by a culture that is rich in spiritual practice and community, a sense of connectedness, and less focus on material possessions. It is the goal of many psychiatrists and psychologists that their patients achieve a state of happiness.
First let me explain the difference between the CDs and the DVDs.
The DVDs are a recording of a live seminar. Some people like to feel they are attending a live seminar and prefer to be able to “see” the hypnotist. There are two hypnosis sessions: a hypnosis conditioning session and a hypnosis session to stop smoking permanently. During the hypnosis, a spinning spiral will come on your TV or computer screen. Simply watch the spinning spiral until you feel like closing your eyes and then just listen to the rest of the hypnosis session. Most people find that the spinning spiral helps them to go into hypnosis faster and deeper.
The CDs have been recorded in a studio and are crystal clear with no background noise, such as coughing, etc. There are more hypnosis sessions on the CDs than there are on the DVDs. Some are longer sessions and some are shorter sessions, for variety. You have the option to choose between a short or long session. Also, the four hypnosis sessions are all different, in order to meet the needs of different types of people.
Are CDs or DVDs more effective? The choice is a personal choice. You should choose whichever format you are most likely to use more frequently. Think about where you would be using the recordings and what machine you have available.
Whichever set you decide to use, I recommend that you play them all through once, then pick your favorite hypnosis session and play it once a day, preferably just before sleep, for about 15 days. Then you can taper off and only use the recordings if you feel you need them.
What if you slip and go back to smoking? This is unlikely if you follow the instructions on the recordings. The instructions are so simple that a child could follow them. However, if you do go back to smoking, all you have to do is start playing the recordings again. Please feel free to contact us if you need support or have any questions.
Are you smoking or overweight and saying to yourself, “I will wait for a live seminar, rather than use recordings”. Many people falsely believe that a live seminar is more effective than recordings. In fact, hypnosis recordings are highly effective to permanently overcome a challenge that you may have.
We visit some cities several times a year, and others perhaps only once every several years. My advice is to order hypnosis recordings right now, get rid of your problem as soon as possible and enjoy a brand new life. Hypnosis works instantly for many people. However, for permanent changes, some people need to reinforce the hypnosis by playing a hypnosis session several times.
If someone has excessive stress in their life, even more playing of the recordings may be required. In short, stop procrastinating and do something now. Turn your wishbone into backbone. Someone once said, “If you wait until all the lights are green you will never go anywhere”. A man in Cold Lake, Alberta once told me: “I quit drinking 15 years ago, but my two drinking buddies never joined me. They kept drinking, and now they are both dead.”
I would like to tell you about two friends from Winnipeg I will always remember.
There was Jimmy, in his 50’s who used to always say jokingly before each smoke, “Well, another coffin nail!” This was several decades ago, I advised him to stop smoking, but he always laughed.
There was Romeo, in his 60’s, who worked at the main post office. I often invited him to come to my stop smoking seminar, at no charge. He never showed up.
A few years later, both died a horrible death caused by lung cancer from smoking. In my 60’s, I continue to present my stop smoking seminars to help people who wish to be helped. People often ask me when I am going to retire. Since the greatest happiness comes from helping others to be happier, I continue to present the seminars as long as I can. I truly enjoy my audiences. Most who attend are people who are very sincere.
If I were a smoker today, there is nothing on earth that would keep me from attending a good stop smoking program. I would travel thousands of miles if necessary. What is everything else in life if we do not have good health? I change thousands of lives in two and a half hours. That gives me a wonderful feeling of personal satisfaction.
One of the great misconceptions with the public is that they need to attend my live seminar to stop smoking. Actually, people do just as well in their own home when they listen to my hypnosis recordings.
If you want to change your life, you have to take the first step. As Joe Girard says, “If it is to be, it’s up to me.” So many people have said to me: “I wish I had attended your seminar years ago.”